Tuesday, April 12, 2011

You Know That Great Job?

Weather: 72 & cool Drinks: Open Bar Just when I need a drink the most - can't have one. This pregnancy I was counting on going smoothly, and nearly stress free. Well, aside from a few bumps here and there, that has mostly been the case. We made it 30 weeks before the BOMB dropped. Apparently my employer doesn't look kindly on pregnancy and since I have not been here yet a year I do not qualify for FMLA and legally they are held to the State leave laws. Which is 8 weeks. Total. This is fine if you have a normal pregnancy, which I tend not to. First it started off with my boss being excited for me with the pregnancy. He said to let him know my plans and he would plan on working around what I wished. Then it has turned into we have a strict leave policy of 8 weeks, including any time prior to the birth. So . . .if I went on bed rest now, and delivered at 37 weeks like I did with Angelfish, I would have 1 remaining week where my job would be held. And then I will be terminated. HR told me I could 'reapply' for my job - but FUCK THAT. I guess I should have known something was up when I didn't see a single other pregnant woman in this office - EVER. In fact, a gal I don't even know came into my cube the other day and asked me if I planned on pumping after I come back to work b/c she had a baby 9 months ago and they didn't have a room for her to pump available. She said she didn't make a fuss about it, but if it's something I want to do to mention it now b/c all the rooms she used to try to use are filled with people now. GREAT. So now I'm on the fence. I can't help but hate this place and find malice for my boss. Just because you have a policy doesn't mean you can't make an exception. I'm sure they'll replace me with a man that is incapable of conceiving, just to be sure. So MM and I are researching our Plans B, C, & D. I guess I could ride on unemployment for a year and stay home with the kiddos. In fact, that would be nice. I just wish our Country Home (MM's house) had sold for good like it was supposed to a couple weeks ago. That would make this a whole lot less stressful. But it didn't so we still have 2 mortgages. So either I stay healthy and deliver like a normal person & come back to this place (ugh), or I get sick and get fired. In the mean time I've put feelers out for work starting in August. You know because it's so easy to get a job when you're 8 months pregnant. Happy fucking finish to my pregnancy.

2 cocktails served:

Nan Sheppard said...

Well, if you CAN, taking a year off sounds great. You can be all wifey, and spend some quality time with the kids... I just spent a year-and-a-half as a stay at home mum (To my BIG boys!) and it's been really good, really interesting, I've learned things about my kids and myself... but OH MY LORDY I am dying to get back to work now!

If you think about how much it will cost you to work in that one year:
childcare
work wardrobe
convenience food
disposable diapers
travel to and from work (sell a car?)
health (you can exercise every day!)
You could make crafty things, like christmas decorations, and sell them?

Sometimes, taking a year off IS financially viable. Good luck!

claudia said...

Do take what Nan said into consideration. It could be the best thing you ever did. You can make your full time job saving money at home and making the best of what your fabulous hubby makes. It would be a great choice. Good luck with what ever you decide. (Ack! Screw that job! If you were here in California, they wouldn't be able to do that!)